This week’s 52 Checklist Project prompt is “10 Things You’ve Managed to Overcome.” Sometimes when we’re in the midst of challenging situations (like the toddler or teen years or motherhood in general) it’s easy to forget how much we’ve already survived and come out on the other side of. This week’s checklist is a reminder of that. What have you had to overcome in your life? What’s on your checklist?
On my list are:
- Being in a soul sucking job: The first nine years of my career I was a corporate litigator. This joy may be fine for some, but for me it was nine years of soul-sucking, anxiety-producing misery. It took a couple stress-induced life-threatening illnesses for me to finally make the break. But break I did, and now I get to do work I love. Yeah!
- Learning how to become an entrepreneur: Leaving the law, miserable as it was, meant leaving a very steady and quite large paycheck. Learning how to make a living as an entrepreneur was quite a struggle, but I overcame that (with quite a few twists and turns and failures).
- Unmedicated childbirth: I decided that I would have my daughter au natural. I’ve had friends who have had orgasmic births. My birth was NOT orgasmic. It hurt like hell, and I learned that my body is incredible and so much stronger than I knew.
- Triathlons & Marathons: I’ve competed in 6 triathlons, 6 half-marathons, and 1 marathon. Not a one has felt easy. They were all incredibly challenging, but I have made it to every finish line. Like in #3, I’ve learned that my body is incredible and so much stronger than I knew.
- Getting attacked: When I lived in Japan, I was kicked in a crowded metro station. I had only been in the country 1 week and knew practically no Japanese. It was really scary, but I survived. I also vowed that I refused to judge all Japanese by the actions of this clearly unstable man, and I was probably even more open than I might have otherwise been because of this decision. FYI, the rest of my 6 months in the country I was met with nothing but kindness.
- Learning to live in foreign countries: In addition to Japan (and of course the United States), as an adult I’ve also lived in Canada, France, South Africa, and Argentina. Living in different cultures, many with different languages has been challenging, but also led to some of the greatest experiences of my life.
- Online dating: Online dating was challenging! I went on many, many dates and kissed many frogs before I found my prince. I did find my prince though and I met him online. Next month it will be 10 months since our first date!
- Having a family member with cancer: last year my sibling was diagnosed with a stage 4 cancer. It was traumatic and hard, but filled with gifts (e.g., we all became so much closer as a family). We’re on the other side of his diagnosis now and I’m grateful every day for my and his life.
- Teenage years (mine & my kids): I don’t remember much about my teenage years – I think I’ve mostly blocked it out because it was so painful and awkward. As for the kids’ teenage years — the oldest had about a year and a half of terrible teen-ness. She literally went to bed one night our sweet little girl and woke up this sullen, angry, embarrassed-of-everything person I couldn’t recognize. It was like Invasion of the Teenage Body Snatchers. About 18 months later she went to bed and woke up sort of her old self again. It was a very challenging time, but all things pass and so did this. My 16-year old now has had his moments, but generally speaking he’s a much easier teen to deal with.
- Being overweight: This should be “getting over being obese.” I went to the doctor’s office and my BMI had me in obese territory. I was also pre-diabetic. I knew something had to change. For the past 8 months I’ve been steadily going down. I’m still about 9 pounds from “healthy” BMI, but I fit into a size 4 and feel great so I’m going to say that I’m overcoming being overweight.
I’ve love to see what you’ve managed to overcome. Share your checklist on instagram or twitter and tag #52checklistsproject.
Monick Paul Halm is the Chief Creative Officer at the Checklist Mom, and has made it her mission to empower women and moms to thrive in their lives, families, and career choices. She’s a busy mom of 3, certified life and career coach, yoga teacher and practitioner, and real estate investor. She’s a wearer of many hats, and juggler of many duties and loves connecting with our moms. You can connect with her on the Checklist Mom Facebook Page and on twitter as @thereikicoach.