I just read this great blog post on Modern Mom blog called “Killing Off Supermom.”
In this article Lisa Quinn talks about the Myth of the Supermom – the mom who “needs to do it all (and do it perfectly.)”
My definition of Supermom is the mom with the perfect house (clean and well decorated), perfect kids (clean and well behaved), perfect marriage (loving and endlessly passionate), perfect job (she brings home the bacon… lots of it), and is perfectly involved (soccer mom and PTA president). Oh, and she also has time to train for the marathon (winning her age group, of course).
Lisa Quinn writes “I’m calling B.S. Show me a woman who can do it all, and I’ll show you a woman who has hired help (and something to prove).”
I’m not sure who can do it all. We have some hired help and Supermom is as much of a fantasy in our house as Superman or Batman.
I have to confess that my house is very far from clean and pristine – and I even have the luxury of having a cleaning lady come in once a week. I am SOOO not a domestic goddess, so that’s one luxury we make sure to budget for. Nevertheless, it seems like mere minutes after our cleaning lady is gone (or at least minutes after the kids get home from school), it looks like our cleaning lady was never there.
I try to be as super as I can, but I have to pick my battles. Sometimes (ok often) the house is messy. Sometimes dinner is made in the microwave. Sometimes the kids have way too much screen time. There’s no big S on my shirt, that’s for sure.
Lisa Quinn wants to celebrate the Half-Assed or
imperfect mom – the renegade who can make an impromptu gift bag out of a Happy Meal box on the way to the party. The mom who believes if somebody made it, then it’s homemade. Need a cave-man costume for school – TODAY? Our gal’s got a pair of scissors, a sharpie, and paper grocery bag at the ready.
While many of us wish we could be Supermom (as if that was even possible), imperfect mom is who we are. And that’s ok. As Lisa Quinn writes:
It’s time to redefine what being a good wife, mom, hostess, and human being means. I don’t want my kids growing up with memories of how clean the house always was. I want them to remember the fun and the love. Who cares what anybody else thinks? You want to make memories in your home. And sometimes when you’re making memories, you’re making a mess. Embrace the chaos.
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